Why are we -- as a society-- obsessed with orgasm? Intimacy, sharing a moment in time, excitement, and pleasure is far more enjoyable than chasing a 3-second crescendo.
People will relax more if they take the end goal and expectations out of sex. Surprisingly, both women and guys would orgasm more, too, if they just relax and stop focusing on the big O.
Sex is far more enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like a business transaction (and it shouldn’t feel that way if you’re not paying for it in cash.)