I grew up in a modest family with hardworking parents. During my upbringing, the whole country was changing with constant turmoils. The socio-political reality wrecked the lives of many.
When I turned six, my parents decided to move from a big house in a decent area to a smaller, barely comfortable apartment in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods in the city. We were a family of four, and I had to share a room with my brother. As a kid, I couldn’t be bothered. I was excited about the new place. My brother was older than me, and sharing the room meant I would get to be around him more often — I wanted to spend more time around the cool big brother.
The only problem was, we didn’t have our neighbors riches.
I was the last one to get the memo. It took me years to understand that my parents can’t afford regular slick clothes and big toys others seemed to have. I remember guys having these motorized carts I always wanted to ride around my non-existing driveway. I also noticed we didn’t have guests over at our place as much as we were guests on other estates. Why would anyone want to visit our tiny apartment anyway?
The other part of my upbringing — outside our humble apartment — happened on those freshly paved streets. I was hanging with all the kids who couldn’t be bothered about their daily budgets. Part of their mentality and all the lessons they learned from their families became a part of my personality during the years.
Not until I went to college, I started seeing the difference between how rich conduct their lives compared to everyone else.
Anything is Possible State of Mind
My first degree was from the community college where I had the opportunity to meet people outside of my bubble. This was the time I started getting reply’s I wasn’t used to before: “I can’t do that?” “Where will I get the money?” “That’s Impossible.” Any idea that seemed like fun to me; most people wouldn’t even accommodate because they couldn’t see an angle to its realization. It was obscure and something made for other’s, but never themselves.
I remember I loved to travel overseas. My parents cared for my quirks more than they should’ve, but they still couldn’t favor most of my crazy ideas. The unfortunate reality didn’t stop me from reaching my goals. I would see my friends taking month-long vacations in Asia for their 18 birthdays. When I saw what was possible, It didn’t look like it’s out of reach anymore. I pushed hard until I made it happen. Since I started college, I visited more than 20 different countries and enjoyed mindblowing life experience.
I’d also see 18-year-olds starting companies and building them into empires before turning 25. Everything seemed possible from my point of view. It wasn’t even the money itself or the connections; it was this mental switch that made you understand that you can realize your ideas if you try smart enough. Most good businesses don’t require an insane amount of capital. But it needs you to put constant work and organize well.
My second degree will come from a private university during the next weeks. This would seem impossible from the financial situation I had during the early days of community college. I wasn’t even among astonishingly good students who got scholarships. Yet, It happened, I found the way.
At the private school, I met other kids who grew up wealthy. They might not have been the most exciting company, and while some you could describe as whiny brats, they always had an angle in life. They knew what to do to reach more than others.
Most people living in tough neighborhoods get blinded by the injustice around them that they forget the whole world might not be the same as theirs. They usually lack the pink shades to put over their troubles and see the brighter side to life.
You can’t blame the poor because they don’t see know how to get above their financial struggles. We’re all products of our environment. Our upbringing dictates our decisions in adult life. If I never had the experiences I had, I’d be probably still stuck in my hometown. Did you ever ask yourself a question; would you be the same person if you grew up in South Bangladesh as you would be if you were born in Nothern California? My best bet would be “no, never.”
This is why I’m grateful for the opportunity I received. My biggest gift was to see, with my own eyes, the way people are capable of accomplishing much more than most think it’s possible. This made me confident in my endeavors. I learned how to act successfully.
Rare individuals can struggle out of their poverty and succeed at extraordinary things. God bless them; they’re usually set out to change the world. If you are anything like me, you’re probably not going to be the next Gandhi. But there is no reason why you couldn’t be wealthy.
Unfortunately, the majority of others gets satisfied with what they have, because they never experienced any better.
Rich people can complain about the lack of money
There are things wealthy individuals won’t waste money buying. They can always complain about how they don’t have enough money right now. They can say the that when you’re buying the fifth round at the bar — “I can’t afford the drinks now.” And you, the loser, end up spending more money than your rich friends.
I’ve heard more rich people complaining about being broke than actual people who desperately need money.
This is the part of rich mentality — being able to say that you don’t have the financial means when you don’t want to spend money.
Growing up, I was afraid I wouldn’t fit in. I could never complain about my financial situation. Saying that I can’t afford something meant that I don’t have any money. It was real. And It made me never complained about the lack of funds. This fear made me spend more than I had. I dove into debt, and I had troubles keeping my head above the water. That happened because I had to prove that I’m just like the rest, when in fact, I wasn’t.
Later on, when I got some money for the first time, I started feeling comfortable around money. I could openly say I’m broke because I knew I wasn’t. It only meant that I don’t want to spend money at the given moment.
Being wealthy is more than just having the financial freedom to obtain expensive stuff or enjoy luxurious holidays in exotic destinations. Being rich is a state of mind.
When you pretend you’re not bothered by money when in fact you are you’re not doing yourself any favors. It’s not like faking confidence; wealth is not created by pretending you already have the money.
The most significant advantage rich people have are their thought process and the way they use that process to conduct daily business. If you learn how rich people think you may also get your chance at scoring big.